Yes, sometimes I rush too
This week’s blog article is a little different. In my work developing digital courses and content for my slowing community, I’m always focused on you and giving you the most value and support I possibly can to learn how to slow down.
But I also understand you want to know a bit more about me. Truthfully, it feels a bit awkward to talk about myself – I’m far more interested in learning about you! But I know if you’re going to trust me and become part of my community and come on this slowing down and simplifying journey with me, you want to know what makes me tick. What’s my purpose? What puts a fire in my belly and makes me jump out of bed in the morning?
Here are a few things you might not know about me.
Tell us 3 things we don’t know about you?
- I did my Bronze Medallion (open water) with Bondi Bathers and was a Lifesaver on Bondi Beach during the 90s (my 20s). Well before the days of Bondi Rescue!
- I love reading Marian Keyes novels.
- I interviewed (twice) for a junior PR role with Cosmo magazine when I lived in Sydney but didn’t make it any further than the 3rd round. I was a bit bummed by that at the time!
What do you do for fun?
Although I don’t do it much, eating out is fun and feels a bit fancy too.
My little sister is one of the funniest people I know and its heaps of fun getting together with her and laughing hard – she impersonates Kath and Kim (and Kel Doll) SO WELL! Bloody funny. I love to laugh with her.
What do you do to relax?
I love to sit still, put my feet up and lose myself in either a novel or flicking through my favourite magazine, Country Style. Otherwise a pedicure usually does the trick for me.
I don’t mind sneaking in a little nana nap somewhere if I can. Relaxing for me is about being still and allowing my mind to not think.
Do you ever catch yourself falling back into rushing habits? What do you do when that happens?
Mmm … yeah I do, sometimes. But I’m quick to catch it now, because rushing is not how I want to live my life. There’s a lot to do rebuilding my life in my mid 40s – my home, my relationship, my career – all from scratch – and I don’t have the energy I did during my 20s when I was doing it then.
But if I fall back into rushing, for whatever reason, I remind myself there will always be heaps to do because I love to be achieving and doing things. BUT the beauty is not only in the achieving, it’s in the space of fulfillment.
And I want to feel things. I want to live in the moment. Rushing doesn’t allow those things, so I’m quick to catch it and give myself a good talking to!
Once you truly learn how to slow down, it becomes habit and it’s easy to refocus.
What has changed in your life since you learnt how to slow down?
I’m more peaceful with who I am as a person. I have more trust in the process than ever before. Minimising and slowing and everything I have overcome in my life over the past five years has taught me to believe in myself. Now I know that all I really need is within me.
Who inspires you?
Mmm, so many! Um … specifically? I can’t, there are so many.
Generally, overcomers inspire me. People who have defied the odds and just got their shit together to make what is in their hearts happen. They’re the people who fill me with tears and inspiration.
What made you decide to share your experiences?
Truth … because I didn’t actually think I would make it through everything that has happened.
Honest.
And the simple fact that I have made it through lots of heartbreaking stuff makes me want to reach out to other women and say, “I get it, I do. And you can do it, you can! If I can, anyone can!”
I didn’t think there was a future for me and I was so scared.
I was also so sad, with no confidence in myself at all. I had no energy. I was so fragile for years. Nobody knew what I was going through in those first three years, because I didn’t have the emotional strength to say anything. The pain was too deep. I found it easier to pretend I was fine because I was processing so much emotion of my own.
My compassion for people, especially other mamas, is what prompted me to open up and share my experience. I know firsthand how quickly unexpected life changing circumstances can send you plummeting to a place you never imagined for yourself, and what it’s like in that dark pit at the bottom.
The fact that I’ve found a way out of a place I didn’t think I ever would, is why I decided to share my story – in the hope that it will empower other mamas to believe in themselves and in what they can do if they really want to change their lives, regardless of the circumstances.
Why did you develop your course and what do you hope to achieve?
I want to reach into the hearts of women and be that permission granter in their life who says, “You can do this. No matter what has happened, you can do this. This is your life. Live it. Do it. You can.”
Creating my digital business and my course came out of my necessity to re-establish my career and as the solo parent of two children, I needed to do something that could work around their needs.
And then, because little by little I started to believe in myself again and in my skills as an IT educator, I knew this was the right path for me.
Even though different work opportunities came my way, I was determined to stay true to my passion. I wanted to reach back into that part of me that set my soul on fire and rekindle my love for technology and teaching and create a digital business that aligned with how I live my life and the lessons I’ve learned.
Ultimately, my big picture achievement is to be a philanthropist. I want to give back through my business to women and children who have endured terrifying situations too, and who need support to get free and rebuild.
Is there anything you want to know?
So that’s a little more of my story. What do you think? Do you have any questions for me or experiences you want to share? I’d love to hear from you if you’d like to learn how to slow down, or if you’re already slowing. Send me an email if you’d like to connect.
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Thank you so much for being here and for adding your perspective. I’d love to hear how you feel and what you think.
Blessings, Hiddy xx
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About Hiddy
Hiddy Fletcher is a digital educator, minimalist, mum and overcomer. A Queensland country girl at heart, she now lives just south of the border near Byron Bay on a little bush property where she rides horses, practices yoga and creates life-changing digital courses to help women banish busy and overwhelm.
Hiddy started her career as a hairdresser, before moving into the exciting world of IT and digital education, travelling the globe teaching hairdressers and beauty therapists to use industry software platforms to achieve better business productivity. Now Hiddy uses her tech skills and life-experience to empower mums to make positive change, learn how to slow down and live large with less. www.hiddyandco.com
